Friday, May 11, 2012

Controversy



I don't know if you have access to this magazine but I can't help but think it will bring a huge amount of controversy and discussion.  How old is too old to breast feed?  When it is still mutually desired?  What if they both want to continue til the child is 6 or 8?


What are your thoughts?


13 comments:

Vee said...

You go first!

Knitty, Vintage and Rosy said...

Oh Vee, you're so funny! I completely agree with choice. I breastfed my first for about two weeks before I had complications and did not bf my second or third.

That being said, I just wonder when enough is enough? What if a ten year old still wants to be bf? Where's the line?

Interesting and at times, a very heated debate!

Now you? lol

Tracey Steele said...

I'm sorry but I think it is ridiculous! There is absolutely no benefit to the child once they are on solid foods, and it doesn't do the woman any favours either.
As a former midwife you will appreciate I was all for breast feeding, but it isn't always possible and no woman should be made to feel guilty if they just can't manage it.
I'm sorry but I think these women who go on breast feeding unnecessarily are just being self-indulgent. Clearly they are deluded if they think it is good for the child in any way.
There, I don't mind being controversial!!

Red Riding said...

I must admit I practise some elements of "attachment parenting" we still co-sleep and right now i plan on homeschooling her when she reaches school age(bearing in mind shes not even 2 yet!)
and i would like to think each to their own etc its up to the parents to decide whats right for their children,
that being said I would hope that parents would have good judgement at whats appropriate and I personally couldnt help but feel a little uneasy looking at that photo.
I think there is a definate line.

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silly old suitcase said...

Breast feeding is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
If you can, do it and enjoy it.
If you can't, like me with my three girls, stop it, don't feel quilty and enjoy giving your child a bottle of milk.
Just feeding your baby is always a special thing...

To be honest, the picture on this magazine makes me sick, sorry.
Breastfeeding a child this age isn't normal.
However...we are free to choose what we want to do and yes, where do we draw the line? difficult matter!

Allison said...

Ideas about what's "normal" for breastfeeding are deeply cultural, and there's probably no definitive answer that suits all families in all parts of the world. I found this article about breastfeeding in Mongolia fascinating.

elsy said...

no,that picture does not make me feel very comfortable.....i once saw in a cafe a child of 5 or 6 bend over its mothers lap and start to feed.... she acted as if it was perfectly normal....which all observers clearly did not! everyone i know who has breastfed toddlers(mainly at night i might add) have clearly been doing it for themselves not the child. still it is a matter of choice as in all parenting.

hapi-ness said...

yucky this makes me feel sick. I'm not a mummy (yet!) and I'm all for breast feeding. It is natural after all, but carrying it on past the point of them eating solids is just horrible. I bet those kids will be seriously bullied in school when they're teenagers and they wouldn't have known any better. I know I might sound a bit mean but breast is for babies, accepting that and treating your child the age they are has to be better

Jan Quigley said...

I fed my first until he was 9 months, when it was obvious he didn't want to feed any longer. My daughter was close to 2, she was lactose intolerant & refused to drink soy, so it was me or no milk. My 2nd son was still having night feeds at 2, again lactose intolerant. Hand on heart, I loved feeding my children, yes it was easy, yes it saved money, but mostly it was something we both enjoyed. Personally the picture made me uncomfortable but it's not my call. Society tends to dictate a lot of what we should & shouldn't do, but this should really be a personal choice.

Jacqui said...

I agree that breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing, and it's best for a newborn baby. I breastfed my son but had to put him on a bottle because I couldn't produce enough milk, and I had to go back to work when he was 3 months only anyway (only 17 weeks of maternity leave back then).

At the same time I think there is a time limit for breastfeeding. As others have said, once the child is on solid food breastfeeding becomes an emotional thing. However, I think breastfeeding a 3 year old is ridiculous.

G-d help this poor child when he gets older and the other kids in school get wind of this picture.

This magazine cover makes me feel very uncomfortable. But apart from that, what I find even worse are the words "Are you Mom enough?" as if not breastfeeding means you are not a good enough mother! I think that is incredibly insulting to women who chose not to or are unable to breastfeed.

From what I understand (and I haven't read the magazine) the article inside is supposed to be about a doctor who advocates attachment parenting. So what does this image have to do with that? I think the reason for putting this picture on the cover is to cause controversy.

Vee said...

(I was put off by it because of the cavalier,in-your-face attitude of the mother and her seeming disregard for her son. What? She doesn't think he'll hear about this in his not too distant future?)
Breast feeding itself? I think it's great — healthy for mother and healthy for baby and saves a small fortune. Most women prefer not to make themselves the center of attention while doing it, however.

Ultimately, I think Time magazine should be held accountable; exploitation at its finest. I feel nothing but contempt for them.

koralee said...

Oh my is all I have to say to that! How are you sweet friend. xoxo